Siarly 5 Things Successful Guys Do on Tinder
Siarly 5 Things Successful Guys Do on Tinder
How Do Successful Guys Get
the Most Out of Tinder? By Knowing These Things
Or, if their profiles are
good enough to earn a right swipe, a lot of men end up sabotaging their chances
of ever meeting their matches in person by sending a message soliciting sex, a
message that only says something boring such as Hi, how are you, or
some other kind of inappropriate or cliche opener.
Tinder (and dating in
general) might be a tedious process of sifting through the dirt to find the
occasional piece of gold, but its worldwide popularity attests to the app’s
viability as a way to meet
people>.
What can you do to
differentiate yourself from all the men on Tinder making the same mistakes?
What do successful guys do on Tinder?
1. Being Too Mundane Can Kill
Your Chances
Never send an opening message
consisting only of Hi, Hey, What’s up, etc. It might not feel
romantic, but you have to recognize that dating is often tantamount to
marketing, especially when it comes to your first impression.
If you're a straight guy, you
might not realize that women
on Tinder on a regular basis receive an endless stream of matches and
messages. They can’t possibly scroll through every match’s profile and read
every message, so they have to determine a set of criteria to help them quickly
identify men worth responding to. Sending a message countless other men have
sent her won’t make her look twice at your profile, much less take the time to
respond.
2. Bad Photos Can Hurt More
Than Good Ones Can Help
Pay attention to the accuracy
of your photos as far as your physical appearance goes. Be honest with
yourself. You might look better in photos from a few years ago, but there’s no
point in putting in the work to meet one of your matches in person if they're
going to feel misled.
Also, if you’re going to use
selfies on your Tinder
profile, make sure the background depicts something interesting, such as a
place you’ve traveled. Avoid using your bedroom wall as the backdrop.
Finally, you shouldn’t include a shirtless photo unless the picture is of you doing some kind of activity that requires shirtlessness.
Pro tip: Don't overload your profile with group
shot pics. Not only can this cause confusion about which guy you actually
are, you don’t want potential matches viewing your profile only to decide one
of your friends is cuter. That being said, one or two shot of you with friends
(or engaging in activities) can be a good idea to show off your personality a
little bit.
3. Be A Little Flirtatious —
While Avoiding Blatant Sex Talk
Plenty of women use Tinder for hookups, but that doesn’t mean they want to be solicited for sex in your opening message.
Tinder messages should consist of playful banter about commonalities you share while tactfully conveying physical attraction. Unless you're flirting with another guy, in almost every case, any talk about the two of you having sex should wait until the later stages of your actual date.
And, by the way, always
suggest dates in public venues, as opposed to inviting your match directly to
your place or offering to meet at theirs.
Pro tip: Romance novels can be a source of inspiration
for developing a flirtatious
messaging style. You don’t have to start reading them, but evoking that
type of imagery in a joking way can help convey sexual interest in a way that
women won't feel creeped out by.
4. Describe What You're Looking for in Your Bio
Instead of simply listing
your best traits in your About Me, add a few words describing what you're
looking for. Tinder's feature allowing you to select whether you're looking for
"long term," "short term" or some combination thereof is
useful, but your matches may be more likely to respond to your opening messages
if they feel compatible with you after reading your profile.
This could even include some
lines about your 'ideal match,' which is a good place to be a mix of serious
and silly.
Pro tip: One of my Tinder matches included this line in
her About Me: “If you can’t make me laugh … can you make me brownies instead?”
It’s a subtle, light-hearted way to signal that she values humor in a potential
date. Using that kind of approach in your bio to convey the qualities you find
attractive can go a long way.
5. Mix Together Statements
With Questions
Listen to any conversation
between two friends, lovers, co-workers, etc., and you will notice they
exchange statements more than they ask each other questions.
Questions can be useful at
the beginning of a
new relationship to help you get to know someone; however, men
sometimes use a barrage of questions as a lazy way to get women to respond to
them. Women can tell when you’re asking a trite series of questions because you
have nothing better to say.
On the flip side, however, monologuing about yourself is an easy way to make your match feel completely uninvested in the conversation. The ideal messaging style will mix together interesting statements and compelling questions to give your match something to chew on and also respond to at each stage of the conversation.
Think of saying something
about yourself, followed by a question aimed at getting your match to talk
about themself.
Pro tip: Ask open-ended questions, rather than simple
yes/no ones. For instance, "how do you feel about...?" rather than
simply "do you like...?"
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